Not the best of occasions....

Today I will be attending the funeral of my 19 year old foster brother.  As heartbreaking as it is death is a part of life.....It's the only thing that's guaranteed.  That is why even though I was in no mood to record a youtube video I decided I would still post about it because one day, we will all inevitably have to get dressed and do our hair for a not so happy occasion....this was one of those days.

I was in no mood to deal with my hair so I decided to style my half wig 'Lajay' by the Vanessa Collection.  I purchased her from my local beauty supply store for 39.99, one of the best purchases I've ever made.  She's bailed me out of a lot of lazy and bad hair days. I did trim her a bit and I left the front of my hair out, parted it down the center and used Eco styler olive oil gel to lay it down.  It ended up taking on the look of a lace front with a realistic part...reminiscent of the popular wig 'Drew' by Beshe.

My outfit was dark and understated as funeral attire should be.  I added a bit of colour with my accessories.  I filled in my eyebrows but opted to skip any eye make up for obvious reasons.

 short cap sleeve sweater - Urban Planet $5
 Pencil skirt - Sirens 19.99
Flower belt - Forever21 $4.80
Red Clutch - Conway $3.99

Floral peep toe shoes - Gojane.com $20


Depression is real.  It exists.......even in the black community.  If you or someone you know is suffering and feeling hopeless  please call the National Suicide Hotline 1-800-784-2433.  Let someone know your pain.

          R.I.P Arthurhugh Austin September 21, 1991 - July 23, 2011 

Chances are....your just a slut

Junkie - a person with an insatiable craving for something.

Does this sound like you?  I mean...does it REALLY sound like you? Maybe it does...but maybe it doesn't. 

Let's really think about a junkie.  Do you get the shakes if you don't get to the drugstore in time to pick up a new product? Or ....do you just go about your day as normal?  Would you rather spend your last dollar on the latest gel for your hair or dinner for your child?  When you put it in perspective I don't think this really describes any of us!

Although a lot of us are self-proclaimed product junkies....I think that's only because the term itself is passed around so much.  But if it doesn't actually describe us,  why is there such a negative stigma that comes with it from some naturals?  I mean, if you can use Shea butter to wash, condition and style your hair then more power to you! but if I need 17 products to accomplish the same look, does that make you
any more natural than me?  Does it make you more of a natural hair 'veteran' for lack of a better term?  I don't think so.  I think that if you are more of a 'girly girl' you are more likely to be a product junkie because you already like to shop....being natural just gives another avenue of things to shop for! lol.

Let's visit a few other terms....

Connoisseur - a discerning judge of the best in any field

Do you know which product ingredients work the best together?  Do you know how your hair reacts to
different products in different seasons or times of the day?  Do you enjoy the smell and texture of a product before you apply it to your hair?  Maybe your actually a product connoisseur....

Slut - careless or obsessive sexual desire for stimulation or gratification.

Do you spend all day fantasizing about doing your hair?  Have you ever thought of doing a heat session without "protection".  Do you sneak in a quickie 'cowash' in the morning knowing fully well that
you WILL be late for work? (come on, i can't be the only one!) ...... Did you just wash your hair?.......already thinking of washing it again? lol well maybe your just a product slut.

Now, i'm not saying we should eliminate the term product junkie all together after all it does sound a little less harsh than slut.  However, I do think that the negativity that comes with it or assumption that it is a habit that needs to be 'fixed' does need to be eliminated.  

At the end of the day if your hair is healthy, you are not going broke, and your children are fed then 
chances are......your just a slut. :)

                                                        a glimpse into my own product stash

Happy Hair Styling!